Immediately after getting a grip, be patient, and wait for any dialog to come your way. Get Busy. Don't stand there like a target. Get to work. Start the activity. Participate in the party. That is why they want you there. That is why you stopped what you were doing to go there.
Don't lean over to your coworkers and rehearse your explanation before the big boss comes. Do Not clue in your buddies or start culling your pity defense team. I understand that nerves are going to run high. You will be so pissed or nervous that paper will shake in your hands. The need to seek control is going to peak til it almost hurts. The trick is to say minimal, speak only when spoken to and stick to the truth without getting personal. Your always told to leave your personal baggage at home. Why, oh why, do they demand that you bring those bags along when you are late? Again, I'll say, there is no good enough excuse. Stuff came up, you handled those and now you will handle this too. Either that or you were dragging butt and being lazy because you need a break.
So give yourself a break and do your part in keeping it short.
Yes and no answers are the best. Anything after that is elaborating and sounds like an excuse. Most likely they have quit listening to focus internally, and have started working on their rebuttal. Don't believe me? The next time you continue on with a bunch of supporting sentences, watch their eyes. When you stick to monosyllabic answers, you aren't handing over ammunition for them to come back and corner you.
Don't lean over to your coworkers and rehearse your explanation before the big boss comes. Do Not clue in your buddies or start culling your pity defense team. I understand that nerves are going to run high. You will be so pissed or nervous that paper will shake in your hands. The need to seek control is going to peak til it almost hurts. The trick is to say minimal, speak only when spoken to and stick to the truth without getting personal. Your always told to leave your personal baggage at home. Why, oh why, do they demand that you bring those bags along when you are late? Again, I'll say, there is no good enough excuse. Stuff came up, you handled those and now you will handle this too. Either that or you were dragging butt and being lazy because you need a break.
So give yourself a break and do your part in keeping it short.
Yes and no answers are the best. Anything after that is elaborating and sounds like an excuse. Most likely they have quit listening to focus internally, and have started working on their rebuttal. Don't believe me? The next time you continue on with a bunch of supporting sentences, watch their eyes. When you stick to monosyllabic answers, you aren't handing over ammunition for them to come back and corner you.
Use less words, so it doesn't sound like you are trying to escape the consequences. Your trying to improve the situation, not make it worse. Truth is, you have no real excuse for being late. At least not one that is different than anyone else. Why have your co-workers been late? Why was your Boss late? True, they might not be habitually late, but they have been late before and your reason isn't anymore creative or outstanding than theirs. They all have laundry, kids, parents, phone calls, appointments and a social life. There is no I'm special here and you know it. You know it even when you're trying playing that card. If you don't have a good enough answer? Say that. But before you do, you really need to know and believe that everything will be okay, even if the unexpected comes up. You need to know, so it comes out sounding like the honest answer that it is, rather than some snotty quip played on the defense. You know your not supposed to be late. You need to figure out how not to get yourself into this position before you get yourself into this position.
I have no idea why they think they are the secret cure to your habitual lateness. Seems sort of presumptuous doesn't it? That your not late anymore because they said...threatened...embarrassed. So keep it short. Drop the competition to get ones goat. Minimize the confrontation. Be polite. You do not want to be in this position. End it. And try again tomorrow.
I have no idea why they think they are the secret cure to your habitual lateness. Seems sort of presumptuous doesn't it? That your not late anymore because they said...threatened...embarrassed. So keep it short. Drop the competition to get ones goat. Minimize the confrontation. Be polite. You do not want to be in this position. End it. And try again tomorrow.
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