Most of the trick is to say what you want to say without a defensive heart so it doesn't sound like your a snot. Its not like your trying to find joy in this situation. Your not being gleeful about them being inconvenienced. Yes, your reputation is taking a hit, and your just as unhappy as they are about you being late. But. But, you don't want to add ass or idiot on to that image either.
Let go of the defensive protection that you so badly want to put up. Eventually you want to get to a place where you show no fear. Hopefully by the time you get to that spot you will have drastically reduced the amount of times that you have been late. If not... finding that place of "no fear" will help you be in a better position to handle any angst that comes your way.
This can be kind of hard if the person you answer to has issues and think they earn their paycheck by asserting control, and have a need to say those words that they say to ensure that they continue to get paid. Let them say it. Be polite. Be honest. Use less words. Be direct. Keep it short. Remember to not give them any ammunition. Drop the competition. All actions should be based on trying to get out of the situation and not make it worse. Do not attempt to improve the immediate situation. Just get out of it. Its not going happen by being witty, proving up on them, getting the best of them or winning the showdown. Improvement comes from somewhere outside of this confrontation, not within it. Improvement in this area has nothing to do with your boss. Its a personal adjustment. Do not start munching on any carrots, grab any ropes or get yourself hooked on any bait. Let them say what they think they have to say. Pay your consequences and move on.
Your not naughty, naughty, naughty. Your an Adult. Your an Adult who was late. Act like it. If you get written up or any black mark is taken against you, stand there and take it. You knew it. You saw it coming. It will all be over soon. You will recover.
Let go of the defensive protection that you so badly want to put up. Eventually you want to get to a place where you show no fear. Hopefully by the time you get to that spot you will have drastically reduced the amount of times that you have been late. If not... finding that place of "no fear" will help you be in a better position to handle any angst that comes your way.
This can be kind of hard if the person you answer to has issues and think they earn their paycheck by asserting control, and have a need to say those words that they say to ensure that they continue to get paid. Let them say it. Be polite. Be honest. Use less words. Be direct. Keep it short. Remember to not give them any ammunition. Drop the competition. All actions should be based on trying to get out of the situation and not make it worse. Do not attempt to improve the immediate situation. Just get out of it. Its not going happen by being witty, proving up on them, getting the best of them or winning the showdown. Improvement comes from somewhere outside of this confrontation, not within it. Improvement in this area has nothing to do with your boss. Its a personal adjustment. Do not start munching on any carrots, grab any ropes or get yourself hooked on any bait. Let them say what they think they have to say. Pay your consequences and move on.
Your not naughty, naughty, naughty. Your an Adult. Your an Adult who was late. Act like it. If you get written up or any black mark is taken against you, stand there and take it. You knew it. You saw it coming. It will all be over soon. You will recover.
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